LDR- the waiting game
Growing up, one thing i hate most is to wait for people, for whatever reason.
It all goes back to an incident where I was 5, my mother forgot to pick me up from music class. I waited for hours and she didn't show up, and tears started rolling down my cheeks while I held my orange bag handle really tightly. Soon as the auntie (who was waiting for his son to finish his class) noticed, she comforted and reassured me saying you're not forgotten, don't worry.
But hey, I was such a small kid. I could only imagined myself being abandoned since my mom, being a typical asian mom, has always told me she shouldn't have had me and only want to take *one of her fave child* with her. How powerful/harsh were those words to a 5-year-old?
Ever since then onwards, i've always been extremely time-conscious. To me, waiting for even a minute really pulls down my impression had on someone. Guys, this is parenting, very influential. So make sure you THINK before you say, do not assume and abuse your power as an adult, it's detrimental and it carries with someone for life.
And I guess, God just had to put you into test for whatever you hate most.
Be careful what you wish for cos you just might get it. Otherwise.
Being in this relationship, a guy who is the dream of my life, yet waiting for each other is what we always do. We share the same thinking, which punctuality is very important. YET due to his job (and very seldom, mine) I have to wait and wait every other month while he's away being offshore/onshore for his mission.
The game is strong.
I am taking it really positive this time (though this is the longest period of him being away) compared to where I was 3 years ago. How? I stumbled upon an instagram account, whose also experiencing long distance relationship. She jotted,
"Distance means so little when someone means so much more to you."
So yeah. Now I know what it means, you're not alone. (forgotten)
True enough, i'm not the only one in the relationship obviously. And I should probably also be thankful for my hectic work and 6/7 work day system for keeping me occupied. And all my obsession with music, youtube videos, shopping, gym ..
I can't deny, there are times I get really fed up. I am a human after all.
It's hard, it's enduring, it's frustrating, it's horrible. Indeed, it is.
But are there something or somehow we can overcome this?
The real life test, mentality is the key.
I know, I can, so I will.
Women are strong. We can commit and give all out for a man that we love, but are we getting the same treatment around?
Insecurities still exist.